Live for Yourself!

Do you think that is a selfish statement?

Many people would think of it that way. I don't. Ultimately, living for yourself is all you can do.

For most of my life I have lived with the desire to please others. I was raised to be a caretaker and have an outward focus on others needs.

The problem with that is you really have no way of knowing what another person really needs. Even if you asked them and did your best to give them what they needed, it's unlikely it would make them happy. The truth is that we each have to learn what makes us happy.

Happiness is an inside job.

No one can make you happy. Happiness is something that you choose. It is not something that can be bestowed upon you. When you think about it, no one knows you like you know yourself. No one knows your heart or your soul like you do, even if you don't believe it or haven't connected fully with it. That is even more reason to "live for yourself."

Fill your cup first.

One of the problems of our 21st century world is the lack of self reflection and self understanding. The outward focus that has been created by our culture and by the manipulative advertising has taught us that we can only find happiness in the material. This outward focus creates separation and strengthens the pursuit of things externally. What everyone really needs is to fill their own cup first. Just like the flight attendants remind when we fly, "In case of emergency - Put the oxygen mask on yourself first, before you try to helps others." Without supplying ourselves with our basic needs we really can't help anyone.

Find a healthy way to "Live for Yourself."

The key is to do some self exploration work and determine what it is that truly makes you happy. The kind of happiness that warms your heart and floods you with joy. Then, find a way to live that. That is the meaning of "Live for Yourself." Ultimately, we are the only one who can make us happy and when we find true happiness within, then we have so much to give others.

Check out my workbook called "Becoming You!: Interactive Workbook" to help you discover what truly makes you happy. It is the companion to my memoir called "Becoming Zia".